Bearing in mind that I can not explain ‘torrid internet sex’ to my real wife (who also has ‘truth’ issues of a different kind), and aside from the ‘get what you pay for’ World Wide Web phenomenae, and that the real subject of your post is masturbation… Would you let either man or woman masturbate you (in the first place)? The ‘illusion’ of ‘consenting adults’ on the internet is complicated by desperation, distance, and alienation from our basic ‘flesh & blood’ reality.
At days end, if what you see in the mirror does not make you happy …nothing else will give you happiness, and you will be unable to give happiness. Thus, sex lies are born.
Further, everyone lies about sex.
Isn’t it ’special’ that electronic sex is a lie?